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Mean behaviour is mean behaviour - whatever the reason, cause, excuse, justification.
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Just...1000+ likes, TInca."I'm not racist but I'm scared of them" sits in every heart until its nurtured and loved and confronted and burned away. The histories of our races are not our histories. The language of our ancestors need not be our language. And while we wander slowly into the light one thing we can do is try to bring others with us.
I would hope zero. But hard for a white male to really know.
I thought we had zero in Australia but my wife (Asian) tells a very different story sadly.
But I’ll still bet on zero for a Camino
I'm surprised that you should be saying,"I thought we had zero in Australia." Many press reports have openly covered incidents of attacks against immigrants/students in Australia recent times. Also Australia's treatment of the natives has not been exemplary. Your wife is right.
You're absolutely right, @Kanga. I should have used the phrase 'speak up' rather than confront...more what I meant was not to be silent in the face of hatred, but to engage and (gently) challenge.I think the problem with confronting someone is that it seldom changes their attitudes, beliefs or behaviours. Usually they get defensive, and that can lead to further polarisation. I don't have a solution. Talking and information does not seem to work. I think to make a difference it needs emotional bonds to be formed with "the other".
Indeed. Heart disease...This is not a political problem this is a people problem.
What she said next made me cry, "I feel safer walking with you." Happiness, sadness and anger. Happy that somebody thought that I was a safe person to be around, sad that perhaps she felt I was her protection. Angry that somebody is treated that way. I would like to think she just enjoyed my ability to order for her and help her with communicating but I don't know. I still get emotional thinking about it.
The world needs more Darbys!I lived in Spain for 2 years in the 90s. I love the country. I was immersed in the countryside of parts of Navarra near Olite to the south of Navarra, many parts of Rioja and Campo de Borja near Ainzon. Am I an expert? Absolutely not but I pay attention, I talk and I listen.
This may upset a few people potentially and for that I apologize as that is not my intention at all. Intolerance/Racism/Fear what ever you want to call it is alive and well. While I have never seen anything or heard anything in Spain to the degree that I have seen or heard in other places and likely others in this group as well. But let's not forget the monkey calls at soccer games in Spain. Working In villages and immersing myself in the language I learned some pretty bolt-of-lighting type of swearing...I don't brag about it was just me learning the language the way we all do; hearing and repeating and not necessarily understanding what I was saying. My Spanish girlfriend was not amused...and I was mortified at times when she told me what I said. My point is unless you are fluent in a language the subtleties of what we speak of can be lost to people that don't understand.
I have shut down conversations. I am a big guy but I am a non-violent person, not a bully, but I do have convictions that when somebody makes a comment that is hurtful to somebody I have a very hard time standing by. I have had words with people in Spain over the years mostly friends and coworkers.
Most recently the murmurings about some of my recent Korean walking partners about the use of ketchup on Tortilla Española took a turn. Personally a sin in my book but really, who cares?! The bartender was discussing this with another patron and it quickly devolved into ketchup ruining culture and then something more directed at her and the other Koreans. This continued for a minute or two and I calmly looked at them, "Basta, maleducados...!@$#". The !@$# is something that doesn't need to be discussed. It was quick and to the point. The poor Korean lady standing next to me didn't understand a word of what they were saying, but I know she understood that behavior. What a crummy feeling that somebody has to feel that way. The guys were a little taken back and visibly uncomfortable that I understood them and didn't say another word. Should I have handled it differently, perhaps. She was never in danger, should I have let it slide and not confront it? Could I have stirred something more that what it was? I don't really believe so in this instance.
The next morning in very broken English she asked if she could walk with me and I smiled and said of course because much of the mornings I was walking alone. What she said next made me cry, "I feel safer walking with you." Happiness, sadness and anger. Happy that somebody thought that I was a safe person to be around, sad that perhaps she felt I was her protection. Angry that somebody is treated that way. I would like to think she just enjoyed my ability to order for her and help her with communicating but I don't know. I still get emotional thinking about it.
At another location on the same journey I was a bit more courteous but shut it down none-the-less in my favorite mountain area. Chatting with a local at a bar a young Japanese man that I had crossed paths with a few times came in. As soon as he walked in the guy I was talking to immediately started in on this guy. Against better judgment I told him to give the guy a break. Neither he nor his friends really wanted to let that slide and it did get uncomfortable. Much to my drinking partners credit we kept it civil and continued talking about what just happened for quite some time. In the end he apologized, we shook hands had another beer and he gave me a keychain that I use to this day. We are all outsiders sometime and someplace and he realized it.
These are two of my recent examples. They are small snapshots and I do not believe that they represent Spain or the camino as a whole. Anybody that says it their country is enlightened and free of racism is part of the problem. This is not a political problem this is a people problem.
Well said. Anyone with conscience and integrity should act similarly.As I get older I have less time and tolerance for thoughtless hatred. When such things start up in my presence I will say something; my faith compels me. Sometimes I will DO something. A racist who would not stop spouting is one of only two people who have ever been told to leave my house.
Brava, Reb. I for one do not always have the courage to do that, no matter what I say when it's a hypothetical 'what if.' But calling hatred into question is what we all need to learn to do, if we care about peace.As I get older I have less time and tolerance for thoughtless hatred. When such things start up in my presence I will say something; my faith compels me. Sometimes I will DO something. A racist who would not stop spouting is one of only two people who have ever been told to leave my house.
Well said. Anyone with conscience and integrity should act similarly.
The irony of it is that racism probably stems from insecurity. One who's comfortable/at ease with oneself doesn't need to harbor ill-feeling towards others.
That sounds scary! Unfortunately there are people like that in every culture and race, and we need to speak up wherever we can.What I find most troubling is how "comfortable/at ease" the bigot is with his opinions. He assumes everyone around him is just like him, and he can spout off with impunity anywhere.
I completely agree that confronting generally changes attitudes or opinions and that what really works is when they form emotional bonds with "the other". That said, there are often reasons for confronting people. One reason is that it shows that the opinions of the racist are not shared. There's an old saying that "silence equals consent". I certainly don't hold to that, but people who hold intolerant positions often believe that their opinions are widely shared because when they spout off people let it slide. Confronting them can help disabuse them of that notion. More importantly, there are many marginalized people who when they are attacked (even verbally) or hear disparaging remarks about their identity and see people standing by, they assume that the bystanders are okay with what is happening. Confronting people lets them know they have allies. That, in itself, is a good reason to confront.I think the problem with confronting someone is that it seldom changes their attitudes, beliefs or behaviours. Usually they get defensive, and that can lead to further polarisation. I don't have a solution. Talking and information does not seem to work. I think to make a difference it needs emotional bonds to be formed with "the other".
Just finished the Camino Francis. My thoughts would be to try and relax. I know easy suggestion for me as a white to be saying. I only connected with one woman who appeared tbe of American American descent. She did not seem To all uncomfortable; I did not see another person with similar heritage so be prepared to be in the minority. And be prepared for warm and welcoming fellow Pilgrims. I cannot imagine you will find things to be otherwise. If you have any questions please don't hesitate to ask. I will be more than happy to share with you my experience, ideas and thoughts. I walked the Camino blister free. Very happy about thatHello and big thanks to members of the forum for sharing. I have been reading posts religiously hoping not to have to bring this question up myself. I plan on hiking the Camino Frances solo starting April 1st. I am of African descent and black ; I wonder what level of racial discrimination I may come across during my Camino.
This will be my first Camino. I would appreciate if anyone has experience they can share or advice.
As a white person, we don't see the many ways that discrimination can be perpetrated or felt. I think it is insensitive to pretend that we can.
Hello and big thanks to members of the forum for sharing. I have been reading posts religiously hoping not to have to bring this question up myself. I plan on hiking the Camino Frances solo starting April 1st. I am of African descent and black ; I wonder what level of racial discrimination I may come across during my Camino.
This will be my first Camino. I would appreciate if anyone has experience they can share or advice.
...That said, there are often reasons for confronting people. One reason is that it shows that the opinions of the racist are not shared. There's an old saying that "silence equals consent". I certainly don't hold to that, but people who hold intolerant positions often believe that their opinions are widely shared because when they spout off people let it slide. Confronting them can help disabuse them of that notion. More importantly, there are many marginalized people who when they are attacked (even verbally) or hear disparaging remarks about their identity and see people standing by, they assume that the bystanders are okay with what is happening. Confronting people lets them know they have allies. That, in itself, is a good reason to confront.
Yes, it originally came up in this very thread which was first posted in February.This came up before and I think it is a legitimate question for a non-white pilgrim to ask
You are so right. There have been many of European heritage who have jumped in to say that it's absolutely not a problem, but how can they really know for sure?But I would strongly suggest that it can only be answered by other non-white pilgrims. As a white person, we don't see the many ways that discrimination can be perpetrated or felt. I think it is insensitive to pretend that we can.
You made me laugh, thank you! When new in my road, I had to call on to my new neighbour to ask if I could retrieve my children’s football from her garden She spotted my accent and said ‘oh I don’t mind foreigners,’ ‘No honestly. I met a black one once in Lorrimers (a local shop) and he actually held the door open for me, didn’t attack me or anything.’I can't "like" your post Reb but I can empathise with the conflict. I'll venture into dangerous language here but Gran would witter on about "nig-nogs" even while nice white people threw stones at her Vardo. My dad would tell me to beware of "wogs" even while nice white people who'd employed him for a month would try to dodge paying him by accusing him of theft. When I finally got admitted to the village school the Headmistress told me not to be "silly" as I fought my way through every play-time as the "ditch-pig" that everyone feared and hated.
"I'm not racist but I'm scared of them" sits in every heart until its nurtured and loved and confronted and burned away. The histories of our races are not our histories. The language of our ancestors need not be our language. And while we wander slowly into the light one thing we can do is try to bring others with us. Not the lightest of burdens.
It can, certainly. And even if it isn't consent, fearful silence is complicit because of what it allows.There's an old saying that "silence equals consent"
It's an what someone witnessed, simply being reported. How can someone's description of their experience be offensive? In fact, this is the kind of response that the OP is requesting, essentially: "Tell me - what did you experience?"One post states the bad treatment by the local Spanish towards pilgrims from Asia. Whaaat???? Totally offensive post
Well said. Also open discussions help us to self-reflect on our own deficiencies and to improve ourselves to become better human beings. Isn't that much of the spirit of the camino is all about?It can, certainly. And even if it isn't consent, fearful silence is complicit because of what it allows.
It's an what someone witnessed, simply being reported. How can someone's description of their experience be offensive? In fact, this is the kind of response that the OP is requesting, essentially: "Tell me - what did you experience?"
@Gadflyparexcellence , it is for a lot of us. But unfortunately perhaps not for everyone.open discussions help us to self-reflect on our own deficiencies and to improve ourselves to become better human beings. Isn't that much of the spirit of the camino is all about?
KCarole,
This is the type of question women pose about safely walking camino alone. Ninety-nine times out of a hundred I say, yes it is safe to do so and buen camino. Initially, I was going to give a pat answer: No prejudice and buen camino. But, sometimes a little more exposition is okay too.
Answer, is there prejudice on camino: Yes. On my first camino I had so many time constraints, I walked quickly, shepherded my mom, and experienced so many camino angels and miracles that was pretty much it. No time for reflection or much else. My schedule was: eat, walk, sleep, camino miracle repeat.
However camino number two was the most miraculous and fun of my five times on pilgrimage. My time was my own. I was a sola peregrina. But....
One day I was walking with three white American guys. They entered a store in one of Spain's many small towns. I waited outside soaking up the sun. After exiting the store guys asked me did I experience prejudice on the way. I asked: why ask? Apparently the proprietor gave them flack for walking with a morena. And, twice kids hollered Negra to me. Quite often locals smiled and told me I was a beautiful morena. Just threw that in for a feel good moment.
When I first volunteered as a hospitalera occasionally I'd hear remarks. One time a pilgrim told my fellows the albergue would lose customers due to my presence. Said pilgrim, said, pilgrims would look at me and keep right on walking. Even though that conversation was in Spanish I understood completely. All those years of Junior high, High school, and college Spanish stood me well.
While enjoying the sun, Brazilian pilgrim jokingly told me to get out of the sun because I was already too Black. His joke. My response: tight-lipped.
I could cite a few more examples but you get the gist.
Now, was my perma-tan a barrier to albergue admittance: no. Did my dark skin preclude wonderful friendships formed: no. Nothing about being an African-American woman seemed to stand between me and a glorious experience I've sought five times over from 2001-2014. And praying to repeat as often as time and money will allow.
When I volunteered a second time a young Black guy from Chicago was shocked to see me working as a hospitalera. There's just not that many Blacks on camino.
And, on that note. One of the three white guys with whom I was walking, on camino number two, wondered aloud how come so many pilgrims knew my name and gave me hugs and kisses after only a few days trek from SJPP. I laughed. Then we all laughed. I am quite gregaroius... but my personality is not.... Again, there just aren't that many Blacks of any nationality on camino.
A lifetime of being African is all the prep you'll need for any and all "interesting" moments on the way.
Buen camino.
Miss KCarole, welcome aboard, your first post! Racial discrimination? I would say ZERO. Good luck with the planning and execution of your camino, y que la luz de Dios alumbre su camino.
I am so sadden to think you need to worry about discrimination. I have walked the Camino Frances and the Camino Portuguese and one of the things I love, is the people. My experience is Camino people are special. They are open and accepting of everyone. Mixed groups of age, nationalities, languages, beliefs and races are formed along the way. I believe you will have a wonderful experience! No doubts! Go forth and enjoy!Hello and big thanks to members of the forum for sharing. I have been reading posts religiously hoping not to have to bring this question up myself. I plan on hiking the Camino Frances solo starting April 1st. I am of African descent and black ; I wonder what level of racial discrimination I may come across during my Camino.
This will be my first Camino. I would appreciate if anyone has experience they can share or advice.
. Also, the local Spanish natives treat us extra special, it is probably because our motherland was under Spain for a long time and there were unpleasant events that happened in the past that they feel they need to reverse or correct.
I am Cherokee. They even sold me alcohol in Spain.
KCarole, I am African American and I had an amazing experience on the walk. Although, I must admit that I could probably count on 2 hands the number of us I saw, I never once felt like the color of my skin was an issue. Everyone was kind, welcoming and generally nice. I have experienced more discrimination at home than on the Camino. I never even thought about it.Hello and big thanks to members of the forum for sharing. I have been reading posts religiously hoping not to have to bring this question up myself. I plan on hiking the Camino Frances solo starting April 1st. I am of African descent and black ; I wonder what level of racial discrimination I may come across during my Camino.
This will be my first Camino. I would appreciate if anyone has experience they can share or advice.
Hi Mss KCarole,
I walked the Camino in 2013. While I didn't see overt racism or discrimination directed at another pilgrim, I encountered a pilgrim who spoke of another (black) pilgrim by describing her as "negro." Unfortunately, I didn't have the words, nor the courage to speak up. I did walk away from this person as quickly as I could so as not to give him my time of day. Looking back, I realize that this was a teachable moment in many respects.
1) Whoever reads this, if you come from a marginalized background especially, the Camino was/is a microcosm of the reality that is our world. While the majority of my encounters were rather positive, and some life-changing, the experience also showed me that there are people who are ignorant at the moment. Be ready to face this, or at least, prepare yourself to face some version of ignorance when you least expect it.
2) Speak up and walk into/with your truth. You are already there. Your presence is going to be someone else's teaching moment. The most obvious for me was that some people mistook me as coming from an Asian country. I'm American of Filipino descent from middle America. By my mere presence, I was already challenging others' expectations of what an American was "supposed" to be/look like.
3) Turn your fear into a daily practice to build yourself and stand by your truth. I emphasize again because I encountered people who could not believe my (rather simple, basic upbringing) that I grew up in America. Even more astounding, I was being corrected that my case was special and that it's unbelievable to have people of different nationalities making America their home. It didn't help that their point of reference were American tv shows from the 80s/90s. If only they knew how much better our shows are now. We've got more representation and more points of view, gracias a Dios.
4) Be open to learning. When I encountered this person, I spoke to other pilgrims who came from this person's same country and asked if "negro" was an admissible term with its nuance. They immediately condemned what he said and apologized to me, saying that what he said is offensive. I suppose, in some way, this was a redeeming moment as it confirmed my thoughts that what he said is disgusting and that I didn't need to paint people who come from this country as all bigoted racists.
Anyway, to the pilgrim of color, differentiated ability, lgbtqia, other/non-religion, and other marginlized identity, your are welcome! It's not a perfect place but your presence is needed.
Love,
A gaysian American
Hello and big thanks to members of the forum for sharing. I have been reading posts religiously hoping not to have to bring this question up myself. I plan on hiking the Camino Frances solo starting April 1st. I am of African descent and black ; I wonder what level of racial discrimination I may come across during my Camino.
This will be my first Camino. I would appreciate if anyone has experience they can share or advice.
Why? Is it any different than asking about any other advice (poles/no poles, sleeping bag or no). This person is asking about our experiences and whether or not anyone ever experienced any racism. It is a fair question. Where would you suggest they go to find the answer?Probably.
Coming from L.A. you were surprised by the question? America? Really?This question actually surprised me when I read it.
Further, it is great to see how many readers have answered in a common voice of none being seen, heard etc...
My opinion is this is one of the many "beauties" of any Camino.
In 3 Camino trips I have NEVER witnessed, heard or been part of ANY form of discrimination.
On a Camino EVERYONE is (should be) equal. Equally sharing food, water as well as the discomforts that come along with walking so many miles in so many days.
One can be a billionaire and walk side by side with someone who just survives day to day and one could not tell the difference between them.
Thank you for that response Tincatinker.Hmmm? We don't do politics on this forum. Even the "correct" kind. Gender and gender perception don't really have much to do with Camino either. (Unless you want to revive the old "co-ed" showers topic )
The OP asked an open and honest question. Members have responded in that spirit. That it what this forum is about.
Coming from L.A. you were surprised by the question? America? Really?
I'm not surprised at Bob's surprise. It's natural, and an opening.Yes ! Really !
While it is certainly true that looking for something can help us notice it when it is present, the converse is not necessarily the case. Failing to look for something unpleasant will not always shield us from its appearance. It is easy to say "get over yourselves" from a position of privilege where you don't have to worry about these things.Look for something and it will appear. Sad. The only time I heard race mentioned was " bed race" get over yourselves.
Sorry. But this reeks of a lack of even trying to understand what other people genuinely experience.get over yourselves
Sorry. But this reeks of a lack of even trying to understand what other people genuinely experience.
Get a heart.
I'm Japanese descendant and a teenager was making fun of me to her friend because of my eyes behind my back. She didn't know I understand Galego.
@falcon269 didn't appear to me to be answering the original question, but a question asked further along the thread where the poster mulled over whether their question might be best handled elsewhere. There is always something of a dilemma about when to let a thread begin to move along other pathways, but if the original question is still being resolved, it is perhaps better not to distract it too much from doing that.Why? Is it any different than asking about any other advice (poles/no poles, sleeping bag or no). This person is asking about our experiences and whether or not anyone ever experienced any racism. It is a fair question. Where would you suggest they go to find the answer?
You will love this story then. I'm fluent in Italian and I live in Ireland. I was waiting for my bus in Dublin city centre and a group of Italian teenagers tourists were passing by. One of them looked at me with a disgusted face and his friend said in Italian "I don't know why you're afraid of the Chinese people, Francesco" to which I answered in Italian as he passed by "be very afraid, Francesco". He looked back, trying to understand if I had really spoken in Italian of if it was a figment of his imagination.Haha! I love this. I'm sad that you were the subject of racist talk but I love that you understand Galego. Cheers!
I wonder what level of racial discrimination I may come across during my Camino.
It is worth watching the BBC "Celebs on the Camino" program episode 2 15 minutes in for a little more on this topic.
Brilliant, and a very funny reponse to that. Touché. I would have loved to have seen the look on that guy's face.You will love this story then.
And sadly there are pilgrims too who cannot get to that place of sharing the way or the world with others who look differently than they do. Just because you're a pilgrim doesn't mean you become free of racial discrimination. Who we are at home we bring to the camino.It is just like the rest of the world and not everyone you encounter on the Camino is a pilgrim or even connected to the pilgrimage in any way.
One part of my way back from my last Camino, mostly hitching but with about an extra 200-250 K hiking, involved walking through the entirety of the Arab quarter of Marseilles (about a 3 hour walk) -- the racist attitudes directed towards me were palpable, including some looks of outright overt hatred.
Don't make the mistake that white folks are never the victims of it.
Sorry you experienced that. I bet you went home to a place where you didn't have to worry about that anymore, though. And that experience is not relevant to the question of this post, which is by a person of color asking about what to expect on a trail that is mostly white people.
And I quite viscerally dislike the phrase : "person of colour" ; No, all I see are people.