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How old is your son?My son will walk the Camino Frances next April but of course as a nervous, doting mother I am thinking about all sorts of issues that could affect him. One thing that bothers me greatly is the issue of valuables like wallet, passport etc. Should he be sure to take these to the bathroom when he is having a shower and should he sleep with them on his person? Sounds pretty dumb I know but I don't want him to be too trusting and maybe get robbed. He and I were robbed in Rome some years back and I for one have been paranoid ever since. Any words of assurance would be greatly appreciated. Thanks everyone.
He is 30.How old is your son?
I agree with the statements above, there is an old Arabic saying "Trust in Allah but still tether your camels"
Common sense is required. Tell him not to be embarrassed by his security measures even around people he knows.
I hope he has a great Camino.
Billy will start from SJPDP on April 7. He has a very good security belt but I guess I just need to know if he should be taking extra precautions.My son and I will be starting the CF next April, also. April 11, from SJPdP to be exact. When and from where is your son leaving? I have also worried about the security of our valuables. Rick Steves sells a very good waist belt. You might check that out.
30????Finally, once your son hits 30, it may be time to stop worrying for him.
30????If I was 18 and my Mom posted this, I would be mortified....sorry Mom, God honest truth. "I don't want him to be too trusting"-- at 30 he is who he is. Let him learned his own lessons....
If he is interested in advice, I offer to have a plastic pouch and have valuables with him within sights at all times.
I was on the Camino in 2013 and 2014 and never had a problem with theft of any kind but I also took major precautions. I had the small purse that is like the "passport pouch" earlier mentioned that had space for cash and an ATM card as well as the passport (readily available at REI or the AAA travel shop). I also had a nylon waist pouch that I wore under my clothing and I kept copies of my important documentation (passport, travel documents, tickets, some cash and a credit card) to be a second level of security that would take care of my needs if my "passport pouch" were to be lost/stolen. When I went to the shower, I had a large (1 gallon size) ziplock plastic bag into which I put both pouches and took it with me into the shower. When I slept, both of those pouches were on my body, inside my bag. It wasn't particularly comfortable but I felt secure...maybe I am paranoid. I must say I never met any person who seemed like a thief but one never knows and to have your money, passport and documents stolen would certainly ruin your day. In Spanish they say "Más vale prevenir que lamentar" (Basically, "Better safe than sorry" but literally, "It's better to prevent than to lament"). As to your worrying about your 30 year old son...to me it is normal. Parents are their children's parents until they die and part of being a parent is to have a concern about their well-being and safety.Precautions are good and I have no issues at all with the comments and suggestions above. That said, on two long Caminos, I have never had an issue with security at all. I always leave my wallet, passport, iPhone / iPad in my backpack when showering. While sleeping those things are in a waist pouch or lightweight shoulder bag clipped to the bedpost. The phone and wallet with all my money & my credit card are in my pockets. I start my Camino with with half what I expect to spend and when that gets down to a couple hundred dollars, I top up at the ATM. As noted, I never worried and I never had a problem.
Finally, once your son hits 30, it may be time to stop worrying for him.
Jane and Saramago...excellent posts.It is very much less crowded when your son is walking and that is to his advantage. I carried extra cash as the month before I was robbed in my own country while on vacation (Hawaii) but the police were excellent and everything was recovered. I used a waist pack for my valuables, keeping nothing re money/ identification in my pack, and slept with that waist pack. I would say use the the same caution as home plus extra. Your son should know that many albergues allow non-pilgrims to stay. Being a pilgrim is not a requirement of all albergues. I did encounter a few sketchy folks, but I live near NYC so sketchy I know . Use the same caution at home, plus a tad more. And no apologies needed for worrying about your son - I have three the same age and the worry stops when I'm dead (whether they like it or not). I walked solo, used precaution as mentioned - nothing was ever taken.
My son will walk the Camino Frances next April but of course as a nervous, doting mother I am thinking about all sorts of issues that could affect him. One thing that bothers me greatly is the issue of valuables like wallet, passport etc. Should he be sure to take these to the bathroom when he is having a shower and should he sleep with them on his person? Sounds pretty dumb I know but I don't want him to be too trusting and maybe get robbed. He and I were robbed in Rome some years back and I for one have been paranoid ever since. Any words of assurance would be greatly appreciated. Thanks everyone.
I am sure there will be many North Americans who would reject the idea that as a nation, there is a cultural belief that parenthood is not for life, and be upset that you seem to be suggesting that.Regading the age of Maryimelda's son ... looking at her name ... Mary Imelda ... I gather she is not from North American descent and may belong to a world where parenthood is for life.
Yeah, that is a possibility when using one of those waist belt pouch type things. I would always run it through a belt loop of whatever pants or shorts I brought in the shower with me to change in to. A sort of reminder not to forget it.I just completed the Frances to Muxia and Finisterre. I also spent 2 weeks as hospitalera in a parochial Albergue.
My thoughts are: leave the electronics at home. They are a security hazard and more importantly a distraction. BuT tthat is another discussion.
I used a waist belt type passport pouch that I wore all the time and took with me to the shower. However, on 2 occasions, I inadvertently left it in the shower and both times they were returned to me untouched. Plain dumb luck? Yes. Watched over by guardian angels? Yes. Or maybe the good folks of Spain and beyond are not out to steal us all blind? Yes.
This does NOT in any way negate my stupidity. But less really is more.
I am amased at all the care some are giving re their belongings. I have always only "statshed" them away while in the shower, at the bottom of sleeping bag, backpag, where a person would have to search for them. Never thought of taking of of it with me. Then again, I never thought I woud develop a heel spur, so what do I know. Is this how everyone travels elsewhere, or just on the Camino?
I do find it convinient to have large pockets in my clothing (cargo pockets) to carry what matters most during the day. "Valuables" (passport, ATM, a CCard, reserve cash) on one side, daily cash and a cc in the other. And this is not to prevent thieves, but not to lose my own things. That way I don't risk droping the "reserve" when accessing daily cash. More and more albergues are offering lockers. He may want to bring a small padlock to take advantage of those in case they do not have them for sale or rent. I also photograph all ccards, passports, airplane reservations and store those on hotmail: always readily available, in case the Iphone dies on me.
Regading the age of Maryimelda's son ... looking at her name ... Mary Imelda ... I gather she is not from North American descent and may belong to a world where parenthood is for life. Not until the government deems one's child to be a so called "adult", which btw, is before the frontal temporal lobe is fully matured. And they want to let them vote at 16 here. Heaven help us ;0) Or perhaps he is not world travel savvy, or feels insecure for any other reason, or maybe she does. And it is all fine. This is a woman who cares. He is lucky to have her. And if our answers make her feel better, while he is rolling his eyes in his head, that is also just fine. And none of our business.
MaryImelda, he'll be fine. So will you ;0)
Hi and thanks for your input. I know that it sounds strange for a mother to be shadowing her 31 year old son on the Camino but there are a number of reasons for this. Firstly he has Asperger's syndrome though not in a very serious form, so I do feel better being close by if anything goes wrong. He is extremely travel savvy and has travelled in Europe twice before as well as North America, New Zealand and far and wide here at home in Australia. Another reason for me going with him is that I have only driven the Camino in the past and it was always my dream to walk it, but sadly age and mobility issues have caught up with me and I would never be able to do the walk. My son has long wanted to do it as well so he very kindly asked if I would like to shadow him across the Camino and catch up with him in the bigger cities for a night here and there. (I think he might like the idea of having someone to do his laundry along the way!!!) As this is the closest I will ever get to making the pilgrimage, I was not going to refuse his invitation.
My question about security of valuables stems mainly from the fact that I have been robbed in Rome some years ago and the fallout from the robbery was a nightmare. I certainly would not like to see that happen again. Still as bad as it was, it has never stopped me from travelling and I make the journey from Australia to Europe every year now and with my lessons learnt I have never had any cause for concern since then.
Marymelda, you have no idea how close I came to asking if perhaps had some sort of autism or other form of challenge. A cousin of my has 2 grown up children with different kinds of autism, so I have learned not to judge. One is doing his PhD at MIT despite, or perhaps because, of his Aspergers. Clearly he is way beyond what the vast majority of people are able to think and resonate but other issues may creep up. Her younger son has a fairly functional for of autism but she has taught all of us who surround her or them about the challenges that come with the condition not to blindly judge. Issues can include something as basic as not tolerating holloween costumes due to texture.
Only you can judge what your son is able to deal with and how, where he may get in trouble. But I think we were given hints and tips that may help him, and the rest of us, on the Camino. Then again, I have NEVER taken my wallet to the shower, nor slept with it in my bed. I just tie a bag with those belongings to one of the bed bars. Then again, until last month I had never been truly incapacitated healthwise other than by simply being tired.
Again, you be the judge, the coach, the advisor. And, I don't have to tell you not to only hold your son's hand unless you are walk him down the aisle ;0) Be his mom any way you see fit.
I am amased at all the care some are giving re their belongings. I have always only "statshed" them away while in the shower, at the bottom of sleeping bag, backpag, where a person would have to search for them. Never thought of taking of of it with me. Then again, I never thought I woud develop a heel spur, so what do I know. Is this how everyone travels elsewhere, or just on the Camino?
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